Virtue Valance
Intimacy Consulting
Sex & Kink Education
Dating Consulting
Relationship Coaching
Intimacy Consulting
About Sam
Sam is the creator of Virtue Valance Intimacy Consulting.
Sam is a Sex Educator and Kink Informed certified through the Sexual Health Alliance. Sam is neurodivergent/has OCD, is queer, and kinky. Her past careers include teaching high school mathematics, high school psychology, designing curriculum, supporting educators in moving their curriculum from in person to online during the early stages of the pandemic, yoga instruction, and meditation instruction. She is currently learning more about the film industry and consent in that space. She is passionate about her roles in intimacy spaces and her work around consent and helping clients become more attuned with the types of relationships and intimacy that feel authentic to them and encourages creativity and play in that process. Personally, her primary kink is rope bottoming and she feels passionate about community and education for people in rope. She has a strong preference for power exchange, identifies as an s-type, exhibitionist, masochist, sufferer, edge player, and enjoys devotional service.
Though Sam is not a therapist or counselor, she believes there is a need for intimacy resources that bridge a gap between therapy and application. Kink, sex, and non monogamous relationships are still stigmatized, even in therapeutic settings, and Sam is passionate about educating, supporting, and offering resources to help clients and their providers bridge this gap. She also believes that there is a misrepresentation of consent, kink, and sex in media and desires to make change in creating a more consent centered culture in these spaces with accurate representations of sex and relationships.
Sam uses the names of Sam and Virtue interchangeably depending on the environment. Please ask her how she chooses to be addressed.
Sam offers a variety of workshops in both kink education and sex education. Sam believes sexual well being is cultivated through promoting sexual pleasure. She is passionate about creating meaningful and effective links between sexual health, sexual rights, and sexual pleasure. Sam can help train service providers and health professionals by offering classes and workshops on these topics that can help assist practitioners in working with their clients and patients.
She is particularly passionate about consent and vetting practices. Currently she is offering a discussion based workshop on creating better vetting practices and is also offering a workshop on creating more dynamic and appealing dating profiles. However, she can work with you to meet the needs of your particular group or workshop, from educational conferences to casual light-hearted settings and everything in between. Just reach out with your idea and ask!
She is Kink Informed Certified with the Sexual Health Alliance and a Sex Educator also with the Sexual Health Alliance. Sam is a lifelong educator, having received her master’s degree in secondary education after majoring in psychology and minoring in mathematics with most of her interest in statistics. She spent many years teaching in public and private high schools. She also assisted in instructional design and developed curriculum in these spaces. Sam is also a practitioner of kink and brings knowledge from her personal experiences.
Sex & Kink Education
Dating Consulting
As a dating consultant, Sam can help you get more clear on your personal intentions in dating and better be able to communicate that with potential dates or partners authentically and concisely. We will work together towards goals in your future relationships, whether friends, sexual, romantic, long term, all of the above, or something in between. We can work on creating a more cohesive and aligned dating profile for your dating apps and work on communicating what makes you a great match. We can also work together to both attract matches and be able to sort through matches that are values aligned for you.
After this, Sam is also available to work with you on initial communications and dating skills for the first few dates, should you choose.
Sam has personal experience navigating unconventional relationship dynamics and landscapes. She has received education in gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity in her courses through the Sexual Health Alliance and considers herself a lifelong learner with a curiousity for unusual and expansive connections. She is a firm believer that the people involved in their own relationship(s) get to design their relationship agreements that make the most sense to the connection, as long as everyone involved or affected by the connection is aware and consenting.
If you are exploring the world of kink, Sam can help assist you in your vetting of potential play partners and help you with navigating better negotiation and aftercare practices.
Relationship Coaching
Are you thinking of creating a project or maybe even a film that involves aspects of kink, sex, and/or consent? If so, you may best be served to bring on a sex educator or kink consultant to assist with the project authenticity, accuracy, aspects of consent, etc…. Let’s chat and see if I can help you with that by helping you reach your project goals and create a safer environment for those involved or assist you in finding someone who can best help.
Intimacy Consulting
Other Services
If you have an interest in working with Sam on something not listed here, please do not hesitate to ask. Sam has experience guiding individuals and groups in mindfulness practices, including meditation and yoga and is skilled at incorporating this into kink spaces. For example, her body awareness has helped her in stretching and breathing exercises that are helpful before certain kink activities and regrounding and integrating after intense experiences.
She also has experience in modeling, especially urbex and fetish modeling.
Again, just ask!
